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Posted by Elrena (508 days ago)

Met a great guy during my vacation - we fell in love right after one dinner with friends, never happened for either of us. We did long distance for 1 month; after a great weekend, we broke up. Because we couldn't see a meeting point in the future - though we felt great with each other; he couldn't do long distance and our time together was way too short to be a solid base.

I need a good story about something similar happened; then you meet someone better, more suitable, more like a Mr. Right for you. I think this'll help me let go of this seemingly close to Mr. Right right now. Otherwise, it hurts too much.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

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Posted by goldenleaves (508 days ago)

...well... er... 'Grease' is the word... don't give up just yet... summer love got me so bad..... Met a girl... crazy for me... we got down... down in the sand....

Don't give up just yet... my advice... men come back... stronger than ever... if he loves you.. and he wants you... he'll move heaven and earth for you... if not... forget it babe...I think you got the elements of a great story yourself... my advice... do nothing... and see what he does.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by LMOPQ (508 days ago)

Golenleaves is right.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by samros (507 days ago)

After college, I met this great guy, but with long distance and he had heavy family commitment(help to support 8 siblings!), we couldnt think of continuing the relationship.
A yr later I met another wonderful caring guy who make me happy.
There's always a new chapter in our lives, so stay positive.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by LMOPQ (507 days ago)

That's right.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by balzac (507 days ago)

there's always a new chapter in your life. Somewhere down the road if you think you'd left somthing really special behind, you could turn back and go for it, if it's really that special. Not too long ago I left someone I love behind, because of long distance and because I couldn't see myself with him the rest of my life. i.e age difference, lifestyle -he's a committed bachelor, doesnt want kids whereas I want them, also he was abrasive at times and when the hurt is inflicted long distance it is irreparable. You dont get to talk things over as much and by the time you meet you've decided it's water under the bridge...but it is not. There is more silence and unsaid things, dissatisfaction and a cold hard anger. Classic signs of the rot setting in-not communicating.

Anyway, I still think of him even though I am seeing someone else now. Sometimes I think I made a mistake, as I feel that no one understood me as much as he did. But right now I am certain I cannot take his mood swings and being hurt by him. I also convince myself about kids and marriage-the endpoint which I am seeking and he cannot provide.

But I tell myself, if one day I find that I made a mistake I would trace my steps and see if I have a second chance. If none-then it is my fate. If it's meant to be then I am in no hurry.

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by balzac (507 days ago)

in line with your request-this guy-meeting him was accidental and what followed was a quaint friendship at first and then there was the intoxication that followed. You know, the joy of finding someone you think is cut from the same cloth, made from the same clay..I found myself talking to him even in my sleep and smiling over telepathic jokes.

Two years an a few months ago I walked into a gallery and he was there. A bit scruffy looking and not my type at all. I was nursing the worst coughing fit I had in years-that persised for 9 months eventually. He offered me the only thing he had there-water and some old tube of dequadin he had tucked somewhere.

We had dinner later as I had nothing else to do in Hong Kong as I was new there. I didnt fall in love with him yet as I didnt know we were similar soul.

It happened a few months later, when I was in Spain for a holiday-alone. He called me everyday and texted me everyday. I felt like I was never alone, and to date my holiday in Barcelona has been the best ever in my life and it had a lot to do with him.My phone bill came up to SG900+

The rest is history.

My life feels a bit empty now but I have to move on.

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by dontknowwhattodo (507 days ago)

He inspected my broken toe on our first date... after having told me how to care for it over phone during our second conversation.....

He would come over to see me even when I just down with a sore throat or a hangover.... dried my hair, massaged my back...

Yet, he was the same guy who not only decided to abort our child but did not even stay with me that night....

Too much pain and hurt followed....

Not been together for around four months but still woke up with both good and bad thoughts of him even today...

A staunch believer in love and romance, I now wonder what afterall is love.

But life HAS to go on.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by HG (507 days ago)

Perhaps mine can be considered a similar 'story'... a disappointing one...

Via the Internet, got to know this guy... he would SMS me practically everyday which lasted some 3 weeks... we have never spoken over the phone though I did mention somehow... Last weekend, he asked me out & I agreed... I must say I had a good time. Even though he was not what I would have expected (quite an Ah Beng), I enjoyed his company, we laughed a lot while watching a comedy movie & during dinner together. Before I got off his car at my place, he asked I SMS him when I reached home... I did, thanked him & told it was a great night out... His reply said there was no need for thanks & I can give him a treat back the next time... 2 days passed, no SMS from him since...

Doubt I would text him... If he is interested to communicate further, he would have SMS me... :(

Elrena, don't feel too bad... you are not alone... Let's look forward to receiving a better person...

(I am based in Singapore)

Posted by Aijin (part whatever) (507 days ago)

Holiday romances hindsight and happy endings… hmmm tricky one… for was he the one or does the distance the foolish dream of what might have been distort? I do not know but I do know that a three day fling was the real thing if only for then and there. And I would never want to change any of it or would I? Whatever. I just know that if someone makes you happy makes you feel alive no matter how briefly that is not a bad thing.

Cherish the memories the haunting dreams. Smile enjoy and you never know what or whom awaits around each and every corner. Some things are meant to be others not. Trust faith and indeed fate.

Good luck and look forward to the future whilst appreciating the all what went on before ya all…

(I am based in Tokyo)

Posted by Woz's Pup (507 days ago)

I met a guy at university through friends just after I got out a long relationship. I was going through a hard time and he was lots of fun and a great distraction.

Two months later, it was the end of my final year, and I moved back to my home city, three hours away (not that long a distance but bare with me). We had a big falling out, his best friend started courting me, and he found out and it was all bad, even though we both knew it was all just a fling.

I had to go back to my university city for graduation, and me and this great guy met up again. I apologised for the best friend thing, and we had some fun.

Back to my home city, and he invited me for a visit. I was staying with my parents at the time, and it wasn't very easy for him to visit, so off I went to visit him about 4 or 5 times over the summer.

I went to university in Oxford to do my masters degree, which is about 6 hours from the great guy. We dated, and then became exclusive, and it was all good. The distance was great enough for us not to visit each other every week, but it wasn’t that bad that we couldn’t see each other regularly. I think planning when you’re next going to meet up is pivotal to making a long distance relationship work!

Then his mum got sick, and a year after we'd got together, he had to go back to Hong Kong to take care of her. As soon as he finished his degree, he hopped on a plane, and that was that.

The next three months were spent saving as much money as I could to get myself to Hong Kong. During this time, we chatted on MSN and spent a fortune in international phone cards and IDD. When I finally got myself here, we spent 4 months together travelling around China and Hong Kong, and then I had to go home.

We were apart for nine months this time, in separate continents on the other side of the world from each other. MSN and phone calls were the only contact we had. Sometimes he sent me an email, but he's not a big letter writer.

Fast forward to now, I've been in Hong Kong for a year and a half, we've been living together for that time, and it's been good! You need to change the relationship for it to work, from never seeing each other, to living with each other is a big drastic change, but it's good!

Planning the next meet up is vitally important to making a long distance relationship work. Not knowing when you’re next going to see the guy can make you feel the relationship is unstable, and can make you feel insecure. When he was living in England, visiting each other was great, but we made plans to move in together when his course was finished. I think that’s important too. And when those plans went to pot, I immigrated so that we could be together. Not everyone can do that, though, so I think a long term long distance relationship isn’t for everyone. I know I couldn’t do it again!

But at least we were both faithful!

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by dontknowwhattodo (507 days ago)

Finally something positive and happy to read... thanks, Woz's pup. It is really depressing to read about break-ups and unfulfilled dreams...

I'd never have written down my sad saga if I wasn't moved to tears by balzac's... sorry.

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by Elrena (507 days ago)

Thank you all - your words either encouraged me or told me that I am a much luckier person. If you have more happy stories to share, please don't let anything stop you - we could definitely use some smiles around here.

(I am based in Hong Kong)